Hannah lists 10 stereotypical things people say to bisexuals
1. Are you still, erm you know..?
Yes I am! And guess what? That’s never going to change. This is who I am and it’s not a phase. And if you can’t even bring yourself to utter the b word when you question my sexuality (again) I’m going to feign ignorance until you actually say bisexual out loud. Then I’ll ask if you’re still gay/straight to show you how ridiculous and offensive your question was.
2. Make your mind up. Pick a side!
Why don’t people understand that sexuality isn’t binary? Or a choice between two sports teams? Or something that you even choose in the first place!? I was born this way. Bisexuality is the ‘side’ I’ve ‘picked’ thank you. Choosing an option on the menu when all the food looks great, now that’s when I’m indecisive.
3. Why won’t you just admit you’re gay?
Because, and I know you won’t believe this, I’m not! Being bisexual is not a rest stop on the way to destination gay. It’s a sexuality in its own right.
4. You’re just doing this for attention.
Nope. I’m really not. Because on the rare occasion my sexuality brings me any attention it means I have to deal with something negative.
Just want to go one day without any biphobia please.
5. You’re greedy.
You know being attracted to more than one gender doesn’t mean I want anyone and everyone all at once, right? It just means my partner could be any gender, not that I think everyone is hot.(But if there’s one chocolate left in the box I will eat it. Because, chocolate.)
6. Bisexuals are dirty cheaters.
I’ve never cheated on anyone in my life, but sadly people hurt other people in this way no matter what their sexuality is. Being bisexual doesn’t make you more likely to be unfaithful.
7. Wanna threesome?
Not with you!
It’s awful to assume people want this just because of their sexuality. I’m not a super sexed up person to be used to entertain you and your partner before being thrown away, never to be spoken to again.
Strangers, what makes you think it’s ok to ask me for sex before knowing anything about me?
Friends, you would have never asked this before you found out I was bi. Show some respect.
8. You’re not looking for anything serious.
Again some people are, some people aren’t – but that isn’t dependant on anyone’s sexuality.
If you’d give me time to explain before running for the hills, you’d find out I’m after a long term, committed relationship. So come back!
9. Should I use my superpower of invisibility for good or evil?
The kind of jokes bi people make to other bis when “LGBT+” events and organisations completely ignore us. Hello, we exist!
10. You’re welcome here.
I don’t fit into gay or straight spaces. I’m usually not wanted in either. So when someone reassures me it’s ok to be there and that any biphobia will be dealt with accordingly, I feel like crying and hugging them in relief. This is one of the best things people say to me.