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>>> If You Feel Ugly... Let's Talk About It! >>>

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    Hey All!

    This has been a common topic-- people feel less beautiful than they are. We are bombarded with images of what we 'should' look like, no matter what sex/gender/sexuality we are. And with those images, we compare ourselves to celebrities-- and even to people we may know, who 'do' or 'don't' fit those 'ideal beauty's'.

    Well, if you've found your way here, we know you're looking to see your beauty. We encourage this journey for building self-confidence and self-love!

    We've created a few resources around the topic of feeling ugly-- check our our video ""Do You Feel Ugly?"" (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4utSXkrO0Dc) and article ""Am I Ugly?": https://www.ditchthelabel.org/am-i-ugly/

    In this thread we want to provide opportunities for you to share and grow and see into the most beautiful version of yourself.

    We are going to start a few prompts- we'd love for your voice to be in the conversation. Maybe you have questions for the group, too-- would love to hear.

    ** How To Use This Thread**
    - If you want to post your own question/prompt, hit the "Reply to This Post" Button
    - If you'd like to comment/answer another person's question/prompt, hit the "Comment" button on the right side of their reply.
    - And always remember to be respectful and empathetic toward people's experiences
    SELF CONFIDENCE PROMPT:

    Two questions...
    A) What do you feel you have the lowest confidence around?
    B) What are three things you love about yourself/are proud of about yourself/goals for the future?


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    Here's a quiz about self-esteem: https://www.ditchthelabel.org/self-esteem-quiz/

    And here's a couple articles that talk about the subject of building confidence/self-esteem. Which one is the most helpful?

    "10 Things You Need to Know About Confidence..." https://www.ditchthelabel.org/10-thi...ut-confidence/

    "Top 10 Tips for Overcoming Low Self-Esteem" https://www.ditchthelabel.org/top-10...w-self-esteem/

    "5 Ways to Boost Self-Esteem" https://www.ditchthelabel.org/5-ways-boost-self-esteem/

    "Shelby Lynch's Top Ten Tips for Feeling Confident" https://www.ditchthelabel.org/confid...ing-confident/

    "How to Embrace and Be Yourself" https://www.ditchthelabel.org/how-to-embrace-yourself/
    Last edited by Willow; 01-10-2019, 02:28 PM.

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    • jarodriguez
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      what if my judgement is so clouded that i dont even know what things are to be considered as being proud of. what if, i generally dont feel good about myself. like i know that im the most ugly person in the world because i know myself, my entire life, everything that i did wrong, and seen myself everyday in the past 24 years. what if theres nothing that i could be proud of. what if im a horrible person. what if i feel like im always not enough. coz i do. and it f**cking hurts, so much.
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    • jarodriguez
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      what if my judgement is so clouded that i dont even know what things are to be considered as being proud of. what if, i generally dont feel good about myself. like i know that im the most ugly person in the world because i know myself, my entire life, everything that i did wrong, and seen myself everyday in the past 24 years. what if theres nothing that i could be proud of. what if im a horrible person. what if i feel like im always not enough. coz i do. and it f**cking hurts, so much.
    mmm this is something I struggle with.

    here goes...

    I have lowest confidence over my weight.

    3 things I am proud of is that I am a good friend, I like my smile, and I've just got work experience in my dream job!

    What are some of yours????????

    ApplePie

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        Hey jarodriguez

        You are right, your judgement is clouded, because you are not a horrible person and so many of us struggle with feeling that we are not good enough. But the truth is the hardest person ever judging us is always ourself.

        Self love is a big ol' journey it starts by just telling that negative voice inside our heads to "shut up" and challenge those thoughts with something positive no matter how small.

        I am proud of you for sharing your feelings on this community, I think that shows courage and maturity - so those can be your first two positives if you like?

        -Remi

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            I struggle with this every day and mull over jumping down to make these thoughts stop.

            I feel worst about my physical self - my body and face disgust me to no end. I'm also convinced that everyone around me feels the same way.

            Hmm the three things I'm quite alright with are my passable intellect, having a great job that I'm really passionate about and having had a couple of articles in different publications.

            But that's the thing - whenever I feel low and I reach out to someone about it, their immediate response would be "but you're smart, you're intelligent" etc which doesn't negate the fact that (they also probably think) I AM ugly. It doesn't help that I've been the receiving end of casually delivered insults: "oooh don't worry you will find someone, she's ugly and she has a boyfriend"; "don't be deceived by how she looks, she's smart"; "you may not be a looker but god is fair, you have the brains to make up for it". Ya sure god's fair, there are beautiful AND intelligent people around and I'm not one of them so thanks much. Even my mum thinks I'm not good-looking and would always point out how my sister is prettier whenever someone tells her I'm pretty. I'm sorry for the ramble I just wanted to get this off my chest.

            To you out there who feels the same way as I do - I hope we'll one day find the antidote to our melancholy but in the meantime let's hang in there/here together! You're not alone

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