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  • No intimacy at all

    I've never really had any intimacy in my life besides kissing one girl at 16.

    When I was 11 years old till about 16 several girls at my school bullied me severely and inappropriately touched me.

    Now I get panic attacks around women, its affected my ability to find work, make relationships and has severely affected my body image and self esteem.

    I've never really felt love, whenever I've asked anyone out its always ended in rejection or online relationships that fail and sex has pretty much been off the table.

    Now I feel at 29 I feel that chance has passed, my friends used to say I'm good looking and funny but I just dont believe them.

    A decade of trying and I'm just tired.

  • #2
    Hello Dan

    Sorry to hear you experienced bullying of this nature. It sounds like you would really benefit from talking to a counsellor and working through some of the trauma that you might have around women and the impact it is having on you now. If you are feeling panicked and nervous when around women it could be worth exploring the root cause of this fear. Do you have any female friends or relatives that you have a good bond with? I can assure you that your time has not passed at 29, you still have the majority of your life ahead of you to love and to be loved.

    I hear that you are tired, but loving yourself is the first step to finding love elsewhere.

    Remi

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    • #3
      Do you have any female friends or relatives that you have a good bond with?


      None. I have very severe flashbacks, not like images but emotion.

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      • #4
        What do you emotional flashbacks look or feel like for you?

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Remi View Post
          What do you emotional flashbacks look or feel like for you?
          In a word, terror. Its the overwhelming idea its going to happen again.

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