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What do you wish the person who bullied you knew?

Community General Bullying Questions What do you wish the person who bullied you knew?

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  • #16133
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    peach311
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    😂😂😂

    #18096
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    alex123
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    Just want to thank you Peach for starting this thread and to everyone that has been so open. I don’t know about anyone else but reading the comments was extremely moving as I recognise all the experiences very well.

    Bullying for me has had a profound effect on my life and it’s something I have always lived with in some form and still do.

    I started out at school as a friendly, outgoing child with an unconventional background as I had an unmarried mother who gave me a free reign to explore who I was although I had been exposed to domestic violence with other family members.

    I used to play with dolls which didn’t start out as a problem for the other children until the parents found out and encouraged the children to stop playing with me and equate that with homosexuality. From the age of 7 upwards I was gradually ostracised and the bullying became physical. The teachers were told time and again and did nothing and it carried on through high school to sixth form to art college. It made me prey to someone who then sexually abused me in my early teens. Basically it robbed me of a childhood and teenage life and I have never had a relationship and have always struggled with my self image. I am still going through bullying in my local community but am gradually trying to build support systems around me but it’s something that is an ongoing process.

    I would like those who bullied me to know that they stole a large part of my life and placed me in a very vulnerable and sometime dangerous place.

    #18121
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    Hey Alexhelm123,

    I am so moved by your honesty and want to say a big thank you for sharing it here. This is exactly why I started this thread because being bullied can leave us all feeling voiceless and we are not.

    What I am slowly learning myself is that we cannot change the past and in order to move on we need to fully acknowledge what we went through with people we trust and love. For me, it was also a case of forgiving myself for situations that followed the bullying because it left me very vulnerable like you.

    Please keep reaching out for support and we are always here If you need to talk or get anything off your chest.

    Sending positivity and healing
    -Peach311

    #18143
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    Thanks Peach, I am so grateful to now have this group which is so inclusive. The media seems to be focused on children which is extremely important of course but it doesn’t end there.

    However, in spite of my experiences I remain quite a confident, caring and open person that has achieved a great deal professionally. I think I have lost count of the times I have bounced back.

    #18712

    That I am a person just like them, and even though to them it seems funny or minor, to me it makes me feel like nothing. I just wish they knew how it feels to be in my position, and things start to get better, and then it all goes downhill again. Bullying is not a joke and takes a toll on my emotions severely.

    #18713

    That I am a person just like them, and even though to them it seems funny or minor, to me it makes me feel like nothing. I just wish they knew how it feels to be in my position, and things start to get better, and then it all goes downhill again. Bullying is not a joke and takes a toll on my emotions severely.

    #18728
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    Hey,

    I totally relate and want you to know that we get it. Overcoming bullying is a journey and sometimes you feel totally free from it and moved on and then other days it feels raw again. Never forget you did not deserve it. you are enough and it was never your fault.

    We are here if you need to talk.

    Sending positivity
    -Peach311

    #19634
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    i wish she knew that even now, years later i still look at myself in the mirror and feel fat because of what she would say and do in gym class. i think ppl don’t realise once something has been said it never goes away

    #19638
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    I wish they knew that it’s embarrassing and upsetting and confusing to be called their best friend one minute then be abused physically and verbally and judged by them the next. If they walked a mile in my shoes, they’d fall on the first step. I want them to know that I convince myself that it’s true when they call me their best friend but I know it’s not. A best friend wouldn’t hurt me like that. I want them to know that I was at a good point in my life until I met them. They knocked my confidence drastically and make me doubt myself every day

    #19667
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    i wish she knew what it felt. I wish she knew how i try everyday to bring myself back and try to be brave in the morning, desperately hoping that the haunting feeling of her sharp untrue words will all go away.

    #19674
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    Hey Thisgirl818,

    Thank you for your honesty.

    Is the bullying still going on?

    -Peach311

    #19705
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    I wish that the people who bullied me knew what I was going through at home as well as at school. I was going through enough at home but the pain of going to school was adding to the pain. It was hard not wanting to be home and school at the same time but you had to choose one. I wish they actually took the time to get to know me as an individual instead of judge me. I wish that they knew how I felt about myself and how long those feelings last.

    #20130
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    I wish my bully wasnt a sociopath so they could have empathy and see what they were doing was wrong. They had no respect for women at all. It ruined my confidence, self esteem and gave me alot of anxiety. Especially their derogatory commemts about my body. It makes me feel disgusted every time I look at myself.

    #20393
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    I wish she knew im really struggling with mental health issues. Everything she says will stay w me FOREVER and i will overthink it tonight

    #20727
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    I wish the person that bullied me knew that she was actually bullying me. She is actually my best friend. I can never confront her though and when im bullied by her i try ignoring it and remembering the good times and forgetting the past. But it happens over and over again. Sometimes when i get home from school i run straight to my room and cry. I wish she knew just because she is bullied by her sister that she doesnt have to pass on the negativity to me. She always hangs out without me now even though im her best friend. She sometimes ignores my texts for like 5 hours. I just wish that she knew that i felt like this.

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