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What do you wish the person who bullied you knew?

Community General Bullying Questions What do you wish the person who bullied you knew?

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  • #16133
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    peach311
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    😂😂😂

    #18096
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    alex123
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    Just want to thank you Peach for starting this thread and to everyone that has been so open. I don’t know about anyone else but reading the comments was extremely moving as I recognise all the experiences very well.

    Bullying for me has had a profound effect on my life and it’s something I have always lived with in some form and still do.

    I started out at school as a friendly, outgoing child with an unconventional background as I had an unmarried mother who gave me a free reign to explore who I was although I had been exposed to domestic violence with other family members.

    I used to play with dolls which didn’t start out as a problem for the other children until the parents found out and encouraged the children to stop playing with me and equate that with homosexuality. From the age of 7 upwards I was gradually ostracised and the bullying became physical. The teachers were told time and again and did nothing and it carried on through high school to sixth form to art college. It made me prey to someone who then sexually abused me in my early teens. Basically it robbed me of a childhood and teenage life and I have never had a relationship and have always struggled with my self image. I am still going through bullying in my local community but am gradually trying to build support systems around me but it’s something that is an ongoing process.

    I would like those who bullied me to know that they stole a large part of my life and placed me in a very vulnerable and sometime dangerous place.

    #18121
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    peach311
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    Hey Alexhelm123,

    I am so moved by your honesty and want to say a big thank you for sharing it here. This is exactly why I started this thread because being bullied can leave us all feeling voiceless and we are not.

    What I am slowly learning myself is that we cannot change the past and in order to move on we need to fully acknowledge what we went through with people we trust and love. For me, it was also a case of forgiving myself for situations that followed the bullying because it left me very vulnerable like you.

    Please keep reaching out for support and we are always here If you need to talk or get anything off your chest.

    Sending positivity and healing
    -Peach311

    #18143
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    alex123
    Participant

    Thanks Peach, I am so grateful to now have this group which is so inclusive. The media seems to be focused on children which is extremely important of course but it doesn’t end there.

    However, in spite of my experiences I remain quite a confident, caring and open person that has achieved a great deal professionally. I think I have lost count of the times I have bounced back.

    #18712

    That I am a person just like them, and even though to them it seems funny or minor, to me it makes me feel like nothing. I just wish they knew how it feels to be in my position, and things start to get better, and then it all goes downhill again. Bullying is not a joke and takes a toll on my emotions severely.

    #18713

    That I am a person just like them, and even though to them it seems funny or minor, to me it makes me feel like nothing. I just wish they knew how it feels to be in my position, and things start to get better, and then it all goes downhill again. Bullying is not a joke and takes a toll on my emotions severely.

    #18728
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    peach311
    Keymaster

    Hey,

    I totally relate and want you to know that we get it. Overcoming bullying is a journey and sometimes you feel totally free from it and moved on and then other days it feels raw again. Never forget you did not deserve it. you are enough and it was never your fault.

    We are here if you need to talk.

    Sending positivity
    -Peach311

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