When a friend is bullying you, it can be hard to realise. It may be hard to spot things like being nasty to you in front of other people.
WHAT TO DO IF A FRIEND IS BULLYING YOU
1. DON’T IGNORE IT AND JUST THINK OF IT AS A JOKE
If a friend is insulting you, it can be easy to ignore it and pretend that it is a joke. However, if you respond to it as a joke by laughing, this means that the other person is likely to do it again, and it may get worse.
<If this happens, it is important to tell them why it upsets you and that you don’t want them to do it again.
2. TALK TO YOUR FRIEND WHO IS BULLYING YOU
Tell them that the bullying is making you feel uncomfortable and upset. Explain clearly why it is not acceptable. It is important to be honest here, and to tell the whole truth, even if it might mean the person no longer wants to be friends with you.
Also, ask them if there is a reason they are bullying you. It may be that they are going through a bad time e.g. parents splitting up, or they might even be being bullied. It is important to ask this as it could resolve the situation.
3. DON’T LET THEM TREAT YOU BADLY
It is important to communicate how you feel when they bully you rather than just leave it. Your friends may not be bullying you on purpose, and they may not realise they are doing it, so it is important to say when they are and to let them know that it is not okay.
4. CONSIDER IF YOU STILL WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH THIS PERSON
If a friendship leaves you feeling criticised, upset, ignored, gossiped about, judged and manipulated, then it may be time to no longer be friends with this person if they don’t change their behaviour when you speak to them about it.
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5. KNOW THAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOU ARE BEING BULLIED
It is important to protect yourself in terms of your self-esteem, thoughts and feelings. There is no point in trying to carry on being friends with somebody who does not respect you and treat you well.
6. DON’T IGNORE YOUR FEELINGS
When someone you care about, like a friend is making you feel bad about yourself, it is easy to just ignore the feelings. However, this can impact you negatively and make you unhappy. If you ignore your feelings, the bullying can get worse.
We all deserve friends that make us feel happy, loved, appreciated and confident.
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