We’ve all had our fair share of shoddy dates, here are 10 tips to help make dating a lil’ easier and full of genuine romance instead of embarrassment and awkward silences….💔💔💔
1. Everyone is nervous on a first date.
It doesn’t matter how old you are or how many dates you’ve been on, this one never goes away. Meeting someone for the first time is nerve wracking – it comes down to fear of the unknown. Try and see the nerves as excitement and enjoy the ride. Before anything, if you haven’t met offline before – make sure you meet in a public place.
2. Manners count.
Be kind, pay attention, listen to your date, don’t just talk about yourself it gets very boring very quickly.
3. Be yourself.
Whilst you might be rolling your eyes at this one because… doesn’t everyone say this? When faced with a date, it’s amazing how suddenly ‘being yourself’ doesn’t feel like an option but it’s better to be yourself now than in 6 months time once you’ve both invested loads of time into it! Pretending to be anyone is exhausting and pointless, it’s you they want to meet so be brave enough to let them, quirks n’ all 🙃
4. How people treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.
Yup that’s right. How we treat other people is a reflection of how we really feel about ourselves. So if you are stood up or treated badly, it says everything about them and nothing about you.
5. Don’t be ‘that’ mate.
Remember: sisters before misters! We all have that mate that starts dating someone new and then disappears into a world of soppy Instagram posts and cancelling on you last minute because they would rather ‘Netflix and chill’ with their new boo. Your friends were there before they came along and will be there whatever the outcome but only if you stay being a friend.
6. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
Most of us are guilty of giving second chances when the smartest thing would have been to walk away. When people show you who they are through their actions believe them the first time. Anyone can talk a good game but its actions that speak the loudest.
7. Rejections’ hard n’ all, but it’s not the end of the world.
It happens to all of us one way or another, welcome to life. Rejection and dating often go hand in hand, however it might come up it is not the end of the world. Your self-worth depends on how you treat yourself not how other people treat you.
8. Not everyone in a relationship is happy.
Shocker I know, but it’s true; being in a relationship isn’t a golden ticket to happiness. If you’re only looking for a hookup, you could end up hurting someone – so try and make your intentions clear.
9. If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t force it.
This one is pretty universal, despite how much you might want something to work out… isn’t it sucky when that person you’ve fancied for ages turns out to be a bit of a bore! Ignoring all the signs that it is not the right one will only cause pain further down the line, for you and them. Same applies for relationships, friends, jobs, clothes… if you have to force it, it ain’t the one for you.
10. Appearance isn’t everything.
Oh but how our egos like to try and convince us that it is! Attraction happens on many different levels. If you always lead with the ego and not the heart – you will miss some amazing people along the way.
So there you go folks, 10 things that hopefully will make dating a lil easier. If you have any tips of your own to add, start a thread in community, we wanna hear your dating wisdom!