Do you feel low on confidence and self-esteem today? There are simple ways to help you increase your self-esteem and build confidence in yourself.
- Challenge bad thoughts about yourself
- Take care of yourself
- Be sure to relax
- Set goals for yourself
- Help somebody else out
- Take a different perspective
- Try new things
- Surround yourself with people who make you feel good
- Accept yourself
- Keep visual reminders of things that make you feel good
What is the meaning of self-esteem?
Each and every one of us have self-esteem. Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts we have about ourselves and plays a role in almost everything we do.
Having healthy self-esteem is really important as it helps you make positive choices in your everyday life, gives you the courage to be your own person, have good relationships and helps you deal with difficult situations.
Did you know that 87% of those who have been bullied felt it had a negative effect on their self-esteem…
Low self-esteem can have harmful effects on your mental health, your decisions about your appearance and ultimately, your future.
It’s not easy to like every part of the way you look, but getting stuck on negatives can really bring down your self-esteem.
Other effects of low self-esteem include:
- You avoid difficult situations
- Sensitive to criticism
- Withdrawal from social situations
- You are reluctant to trust yourself
It’s important to believe, deep down that you can change. Change doesn’t necessarily happen easily or quickly, but it can happen.
Here are our top tips and the best ways to build and improve your self-esteem.
1. Challenge bad thoughts about yourself
Replace them with more positive thoughts which celebrate things you’re good at. You can do this by writing down a list of at least three things you do well.
Remember this list when you start feeling low, this will help bring yourself back to reality.
2. Take care of yourself
Eating well and exercising boosts endorphins, the body’s natural opiates, which make you feel good on the inside and stimulates a more positive mood.
When you exercise, you’ll ease stress and feel better about yourself. Having a cheesy dance in your bedroom, or going for a jog around the block are great ways to boost your self-esteem.
The constant feeling of stress can play a huge role in low self-esteem. It makes you feel negative thoughts more often, it reduces your confidence and you’ll probably feel too tired to exercise, be social or do a lot of the things you love.
Reducing your stress by taking time out to do something you find relaxing is a great starting point to making yourself feel better.
This can be anything from taking a bath, meditation, gaming, indoor dancing, singing… you name it; if it works for you, it works!
4. Set goals
Take the time every day to think about what you’d like to achieve. Then set yourself realistic goals for each day and keep track of your progress by writing down all your accomplishments.
This can be as simple as finishing off a piece of work or tidying up (and we all know how challenging this can be!)
You’ll feel an enormous sense of accomplishment when you’ve ticked off everything on your list for the day.
The trick is to not get bogged down by the list; some days you won’t manage to get it all done and that’s OK too! We all have off days, maybe make a shorter list for the next day and see how you get on?
5. Help someone out
This can be a friend, family member or even a classmate who is struggling with their work or having a tough time at school. You could give them some advice or just be there to listen to a problem.
It’s amazing how much our confidence is boosted when we do selfless things – do one thing a week to help someone else without expecting anything in return.
6. Take a different perspective
Look at tricky situations from alternative angles. Try to replace thoughts like ‘why should I bother?’ with ‘I won’t know unless I try’.
By looking at a situation through a more realistic lens you’ll realise that you actually can do what you want – you just need to apply a bit more positivity!
By doing this every time you have a negative thought, you’ll eventually default to this kind of positivity on the regular, and who doesn’t love a go-getter? Sometimes we just need to think and try different things to overcome having low self-esteem.
7. Try new things
Our brains are really good at learning new stuff and the more new stuff you learn, the better you get at learning it and the more likely you find things you can be passionate about.
Everyone needs a creative outlet; music, art, dance, games, sewing, cooking, web design – all you need to do is get on YouTube and find some tutorials. All the information you need is out there – it’s just waiting for you to watch it.
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8. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good
Sometimes our friends don’t make us feel good, and that’s okay. You just need to spend your time with other people who appreciate and care about you more. This doesn’t even need to be your friends, but they could be family members, online friends or neighbours.
And those friends who aren’t helping your mood? Learn whether they are a toxic friend and think about trying to distance yourself from those people who make you feel bad about yourself.
It can be a little tricky at first, but even if they’re the most popular kid in school or the coolest person you know, it’s really not worth hanging out with them if they make you feel rubbish!
If you need help, we’ve written an article with 8 steps to help you break up with a toxic friend.
Strengthen friendships and relationships and you’ll most certainly feel better about things in the long run!
9. Accept yourself
Nobody is perfect. We all have issues and we all have flaws. Learn to accept your ‘flaws’ or imperfections and love them, because they are what make you unique. So, work it honey!
Self-acceptance is the key to feeling confident. When people pay you compliments, simply say ‘thanks’ rather than brushing them aside or countering them with a negative.
10. Keep visual reminders of things that make you feel good
Mementoes are a great way to see all the cool things you’ve been doing. How about making a ‘wall of fame’ in your bedroom with snaps of you and your friends?
We are living in an age where we have a camera in our pocket at all times…take more pictures!
Capture those memorable moments and when you look back at them, you’ll realise how many awesome things you’ve done this year!
Still not sure if you have low self-esteem?
It is completely normal to feel negative about yourself from time to time but if this feeling is long-lasting, then you may have low self-esteem.
Picking up on the signs is important so you can build your confidence back up to where it should be.
Take this easy to finish quiz to find out if you need a bit of a boost:
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Self-Esteem & Confidence FAQs
Make sure to look after yourself, and find people who make you feel good and happy. Challenge any bad thoughts that come into your head. Understand the things triggering these bad thoughts and make changes to deal with them.
One of the ways to do this is to stop comparing yourself to other people, especially on social media apps like Instagram. Challenge your internal negative thoughts and try new things. Confidence will build from doing things just as much as learning about them.
You avoid difficult situations, you are more sensitive to criticism that normal, you feel more anxiety than normal, you are withdrawing from social situations and you feel reluctant to trust yourself.