#LabelsAreForClothes

Ditch the Label is proud to announce that we have teamed up with River Island on their #LabelsAreForClothes Campaign. £3 from every t-shirt sold in River Island goes towards funding crucial anti-bullying support! In fact, we loved it so much, here are our top t-shirt wearers (so far)…

 

 

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…Are you addicted?

1 in 3 people say they use social media constantly and 60% of people say they can’t go more than a day without using it.

But what are the warning signs that you’re addicted? Ditch the Label teamed up with Lynx to uncover the top 7 signs you’re addicted to social media…

Any of these familiar? Share with your mates if you’ve caught them in the act!

Wanna talk about it?

Join the community to get support from a Ditch the Label digital mentor…

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Shady online behaviours

Are you throwing some serious shade?

We put our heads together here at Ditch HQ to make this list of twelve shady behaviours that people do online which they deffo wouldn’t IRL.

We’re all guilty of at least a couple of the points on this list! But if you’re doing them all on the regular, then maybe consider …not doing them?!

1. Stalking people

Following someone around online is for some reason considered more ok than doing it in real life. It’s illegal to stalk someone in real life – but that doesn’t mean you can do it online instead! When you stalk someone online, you’re literally following them around their online hangouts. It’s like trailing your crush from coffee shop to coffee shop until they finally acknowledge your existence! (dodgy)

2. Judging people

Social media is a breeding ground for bitchiness and judgery, don’t pretend like you don’t judge people on their Insta photos or who’s in their profile pics! 😉

3. Comparing ourselves to others based on their social media activity

…“So, she has like 140k followers so she must be really successful and happy…”

4. Looking waaay back through someone’s old photos

And accidentally hitting ‘like’ on one from 2010… come on, we’ve all done it. *cringe*😱

5. Snooping at your crush’s exes online.

This is not a good thing to do, especially when you accidentally add them or like something on their page. Srsly guys, don’t risk it! Also, don’t judge a person on their ex-partners, they’re exes for a reason!

6. When you walk past someone you have as a friend on Facebook but don’t even acknowledge their existence…

… but you know all about their holiday last month and ‘liked’ their last profile pic.

7. Deliberately not ‘liking’ a friend’s good news because you fell out last week.

This is sooo passive aggressive. If you’re annoyed at a mate – talk it out!

8. One word: Schadenfreude.

A word which only exists in the German language and roughly translates as, ‘pleasure derived from the misfortune of others’ … ’nuff said.

9. Unfriending someone because you didn’t like their face in that last selfie they posted.

C’mon guys, you’re better than this.

10. Logging in to your mate’s profile and typing, ‘I love poop’ on their FB status… 😂

Ok, bad example – this is kinda funny if you’re 10, but also risky. You don’t know who’s got their super-grump of an aunt on their friend list who would NOT be amused by something a little more, risque!

11. Heavily editing every single photo you put online.

So, the occasional SnapChat filter is fine from time to time or the occasional moody Insta effect but honestly – you’re great as you are, don’t obsess over the way your skin looks! Embrace that double chin, love that pimple – own it!

12. Deliberately not opening a message so you don’t have to reply.

We’ve all done it, the old classic ‘I’ll deal with that later’ trick, which really doesn’t work these days since most of us are glued to our smartphones 24/7!

So, if you’re guilty of any of these, STOP! Exist in real time and use the glorious internet for what it was intended: cats and Netflix. Don’t forget to post your online pet peeves in our rant box

If you like this article, check out our awesome video Online Dating vs Reality

body-types

Can we tell which body type you most relate to?

Ectomorph, Endomorph, Mesomorph or somewhere in-between? Answer 10 questions in our short quiz to find out which body type you are most like and what it all means…

Once you figure out which body type you are, check out what [insert name] has to say about the best ways of keeping fit and what’s best for you.

If you’re unhappy with your appearance or your body click here for more support or join our community to see what other people are saying about body image and personal appearance.

No body is perfect, but we think you’re amazing 👌🏾

dating help

We’ve all had our fair share of shoddy dates, here are 10 tips to help make dating a lil’ easier and full of genuine romance instead of embarrassment and awkward silences….💔💔💔

1. Everyone is nervous on a first date.

It doesn’t matter how old you are or how many dates you’ve been on, this one never goes away. Meeting someone for the first time is nerve wracking – it comes down to fear of the unknown. Try and see the nerves as excitement and enjoy the ride. Before anything, if you haven’t met offline before – make sure you meet in a public place.

2. Manners count.

Be kind, pay attention, listen to your date, don’t just talk about yourself it gets very boring very quickly.

3. Be yourself.

Whilst you might be rolling your eyes at this one because… doesn’t everyone say this? When faced with a date, it’s amazing how suddenly ‘being yourself’ doesn’t feel like an option but it’s better to be yourself now than in 6 months time once you’ve both invested loads of time into it! Pretending to be anyone is exhausting and pointless, it’s you they want to meet so be brave enough to let them, quirks n’ all 🙃

4. How people treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.

Yup that’s right. How we treat other people is a reflection of how we really feel about ourselves. So if you are stood up or treated badly, it says everything about them and nothing about you.

5. Don’t be ‘that’ mate.

Remember: sisters before misters!  We all have that mate that starts dating someone new and then disappears into a world of soppy Instagram posts and cancelling on you last minute because they would rather ‘Netflix and chill’ with their new boo. Your friends were there before they came along and will be there whatever the outcome but only if you stay being a friend.

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6. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.

Most of us are guilty of giving second chances when the smartest thing would have been to walk away. When people show you who they are through their actions believe them the first time. Anyone can talk a good game but its actions that speak the loudest.

7. Rejections’ hard n’ all, but it’s not the end of the world.

It happens to all of us one way or another, welcome to life. Rejection and dating often go hand in hand, however it might come up it is not the end of the world. Your self-worth depends on how you treat yourself not how other people treat you.

8. Not everyone in a relationship is happy.

Shocker I know, but it’s true; being in a relationship isn’t a golden ticket to happiness. If you’re only looking for a hookup, you could end up hurting someone – so try and make your intentions clear.

9. If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t force it.

This one is pretty universal, despite how much you might want something to work out… isn’t it sucky when that person you’ve fancied for ages turns out to be a bit of a bore! Ignoring all the signs that it is not the right one will only cause pain further down the line, for you and them. Same applies for relationships, friends, jobs, clothes… if you have to force it, it ain’t the one for you.

10. Appearance isn’t everything.

Oh but how our egos like to try and convince us that it is! Attraction happens on many different levels. If you always lead with the ego and not the heart – you will miss some amazing people along the way.

So there you go folks, 10 things that hopefully will make dating a lil easier. If you have any tips of your own to add, start a thread in community, we wanna hear your dating wisdom!

Now, go get em 😉

For more lolworthy dating related content, check out: 10 Things You Do When You Fancy Someone [but probably shouldn’t]

 

rejection

What I wish I knew about rejection when I was younger.

Rejection is inevitable.

Splitting up with your partner, failing an exam, being left out by mates, not getting into the college or university you wanted, being dropped from a sports team, being let go at work, failing your driving test and being bullied can leave us all feeling rejected and deflated. No one can live a life free from rejection and we all have our turn at facing it.

Here are 6 things I wish someone had have told me about rejection when I was younger:

No one is keeping count.

Having experienced my own fair share of rejection growing up; I struggled academically, I failed my driving test repeatedly and felt invisible to the opposite sex for most of my teen years to name a few. Somewhere along the line I started to believe that there was an unspoken and invisible number of times I was allowed to fail before I officially became a loser and worse still, someone was keeping count. Turns out unsurprisingly this is total rubbish, yes its true people experience different levels of rejection but no one anywhere is keeping count of yours except for maybe you. Do yourself a favour and stop this right now. You are human and therefore not only entitled to get things wrong, but it is a guarantee that you will – just like the billions of other people in the world.

It happens to all of us.

It is all too easy to feel alone in failure but that is simply not true, when we fail we are in very good company; J.K.Rowling had Harry Potter and The Philosophers Stone rejected by twelve major publishers before it was picked up over a year later by Bloomsbury. Stephen Spielberg was turned down twice when trying to get into the USC Cinematic film School. Walt Disney was fired from his job at the Kansas City Star paper by the editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas” and his first company went bankrupt. One of the best on-screen dancers of all time Fred Astaire was told by the screen tester at MGM that he “Can’t dance, can’t sing” and was “slightly bald”. Jim Carey was booed off stage during his first stand up gig in Toronto. Next time it happens take a deep breath and remind yourself you are not alone nor will you be the last person to go through it.

Look for the lessons.

Rejection hurts and that will never change. But it doesn’t have to be the only thing you experience from it. Rejection can be a great teacher if we are willing to look for the lessons and grow from it. This changed everything for me when I stopped feeling ashamed by my failings and started to try and learn from them. Rejection has taught me to not give up, that its ok to make mistakes and to stop taking everything so personally. This only happened when I stopped running from it and started facing it.
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It’s good for us.

Even though it feels like the total opposite, getting rejected is actually good for us. It deflates our ego and if we allow it to – helps us develop a bit of humility. Humility is often confused with being a doormat. This isn’t true. Humility is about right sizing ourselves and knowing we are all the same, no one is above us or below us. So let the rejection be a gentle reminder of your humanness and to treat everybody a little kinder.

Share it.

The last thing anyone wants to do when they have been rejected is to share it. It’s human nature to want to save face and keep it to ourselves. But this is the worst thing to do as the secrecy soon turns it into a toxic mix of guilt, shame and embarrassment. By sharing it with someone we trust we stop that happening and get the support and strength we need to carry on and keep trying.

Let it make you fearless.

Don’t let a rejection scare you off future attempts. You are more likely to succeed on your second or third try. And even if you don’t get the results you want, you’ll get feedback so you can keep improving. In my experience when I finally figured out that rejection was as bad as I made it and I always have a choice how I view it, it no longer became this scary monster and I got braver. So in face of rejection what counts is standing up again not how many times you get knocked down.

If you’re struggling with rejection and want to chat, let one of our experts help. Sign up to Community now and start a conversation.

Guys-don't-cry

Masculinity Myth #1 – Guys don’t cry.

Our research shows that people associate masculine behaviours with strong and powerful characters. With 71% choosing ‘strong’ as a descriptor for masculinity, its no wonder guys think it’s not ok to cry! Some even think that crying a sign of weakness…

57% of American guys and 50% of British guys agreed that society sends the message, “men who talk about their worries, fears and problems shouldn’t get respect.” We’re here to set the record straight: your gender does not exclude you from emotion.

No one finds crying easy, fun or something to really look forward to. It sucks, it’s uncomfortable, it turns us into a snotty, blubbering mess. It puts most of us outside of our comfort zone and leaves us feeling exposed and vulnerable. So it seems bizarre that on top of all of that, we are then told that we categorically cannot and should not cry because we are guys!?!

Suicide is the biggest killer of young guys in the UK today.

Guys not only need to cry but their lives’ depend on being told its ok to cry. Learning how to process difficult emotions is critical to a person’s well-being, mental health and happiness. The effects of guys being told they can’t cry results in the suppression and denial of feelings, which can be catastrophic and far-reaching. Crying is a natural human emotion, think of it as a bodily function – kinda like peeing, but out of your eyes…

Here are some things you may not have known about crying:

Crying cleans your eyes 😢

Turns out crying is actually physically good for your eyes. The tears help to get rid of harmful toxins and bacteria that live there so next time you are having a bit of a sob – at least you know that your eyes are grateful for the clean.

Crying releases pain 😭

Crying is uncomfortable which is why so many of us rush to block the tears. The good news is that crying helps to release pain and is your body’s way of getting your attention to let you know that something is wrong. Crying just forces you to acknowledge it, otherwise, it can be all too easy to push it aside.

Crying makes you feel better 😰

There’s a science behind the reasons why crying can make us feel better. The tears we shed have been shown to cause the release of endorphins which contain something called Leucine Enkephalin, our body’s natural painkiller.

Crying is normal 😪

Crying is a completely natural response to our environment. If crying wasn’t a normal, biological process, then it wouldn’t happen. It’s the same as an uncontrolled response like sneezing!

Crying with Laughter 😂

There’s nothing better than laughing so hard you cry, we all have that one mate who cracks us up, even in the most awkward situations!

Finally, crying along with laughing and smiling is one of the oldest forms of communication. So, get out there and don’t be scared to go after all the feels you can feel!

😭😂😰😢😥😓😪😰

That being said, if you are depressed or need to talk about something, join our community to talk to a digital mentor – no judgement here, just a shoulder or two to cry on!

body image for guys

There’s lots of talk about female body image but what about guys?

We are all bombarded with images of perfect bodies, be it on Instagram, Facebook, television, movies, magazines… you name it. These ridiculous standards apply for guys as well as girls these days. In fact, more guys than ever are unhappy with their bodies. It is a growing problem right now and is having lasting effects on our mental and emotional wellbeing…

Despite being satisfied with their attractiveness overall, most of the men surveyed in our research reported being unsatisfied with the shape and size of their muscles. When asked what they would change about themselves, almost half said ‘weight or body shape.’

On top of this, according to Ditch the Label research, lots of people have some funny ideas about what is and is not considered to be a manly body type. So, we’re gonna clear some things up so that we can rest easy in our bodies!

Here are 12 things that you might not have known about your body, tell your friends, bros, dads, uncles and grandpas…

What you need to know about your body:

1. Boys get eating disorders too.  25% of boys will experience an eating disorder such as Bulimia or Anorexia.

2. It’s ok for your partner to be taller than you. Loads of guys are concerned about their height, especially if their partner is taller than them.

3. It’s ok for your partner to be stronger than you too! How much you can bench press really isn’t a quality most people think about when looking for love!

4. Not all guys who are fit, are muscly. Fitness and being healthy doesn’t necessarily mean big muscles! Check out this article on The Link Between Masculinity and Health.

5. Different people like different people. Just because some people swoon over Tom Hardy, doesn’t mean we all have to look like him!

6. Weight has nothing to do with masculinity! Different people have different metabolisms and retain fat and muscle at varying rates.

7. Losing Hair. 40% of men will experience hair loss of varying degrees by the age of 35. It’s completely normal and shouldn’t be something to be ashamed of.

8. Having hair. Beards and chest hair are sometimes falsely associated with masculinity…

9. Most sexual partners do not care about the size of your junk! This is a big one for male insecurity (no pun intended 😂). If they like you, then they probably won’t care about the size of your equipment!

10. There are different male body types.

11. Men are edited/airbrushed too – pics of men in the media are not a reflection of reality, in the same way that pictures of women in the media are not realistic either! The super greased up, muscle man on the front cover of that magazine is not a true representation of most men’s bodies. You are not expected to look like that!

12. Other men worry about this stuff too. No matter how alone you feel when worrying about your height, weight or body shape, you’re not alone. Most people have insecurities about their bodies but no one is talking about it. Time to open up, join our community and start that conversation now!

If any of the topics in this article affect you, speak to one of our digital mentors here who can help you embrace the body you’re in! We think you’re great as you are! 😉

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