Things like self-esteem and confidence take the biggest knock as a result of bullying. We internalise the mean comments and try to rationalise why we might’ve been excluded, singled out and picked on.
…Eventually we come to the conclusion that… “it must be me 😳”
In doing so we convince ourselves that there’s something wrong with us and before you know it…. hey presto! You’ve got yourself a whole bunch of social anxiety, confidence issues and low self esteem to contend with.
The worst thing about this is that it follows us around for ages and it’s difficult to shake, even after the bullying has been resolved. We’re left feeling low and vulnerable. So, what can we do about it? The answer is simple but not always so easy to achieve: we can learn to love ourselves.
The experts at DTL put their heads together to come up with 50 things you can do to give yourself a little boost, try to tick off every single one and we guarantee you’ll start feeling better about yourself.
Try these out:
1. Tell yourself that you are enough 2. Change up your hairstyle 3. Watch your fave movie 4. Talk to that mate that always makes you giggle 5. Run faster than you’ve ever run before 6. Make something you’ve never made before 7. Shout out a window really loud about how amazing you are (we dare you) 8. Help a mate 9. Spend time with a puppy 10. Write a list of all your best qualities 11. Write a list of all the good things in your life – everyday 12. Do something that you know you’re really good at 13. Accept a compliment by saying ‘thank you’ 14. Unfollow/block all the things on social media which make you feel worthless 15. Ask for help more 16.Build something 17. Complete a video game 18. Find a sense of community (*cough hint cough*) 19. Say yes more 20. Learn a martial art 21. Take up a new sport 22. Literally say nice things to yourself in the mirror (a bit cringe at first, but trust us, it works 😉) 23. Be kinder to the people closest to you 24. Read about people who have similar experiences to you 25. Talk to people who have similar experiences to you
26. Treat yourself once in a while 27. Allow yourself to laugh more 28. Be outside more 29. Hang out with people who make you feel good 30. Join a forum (*cough hint cough*) 31. Understand that no one has it easy 32. Be creative 33. Practise mindful colouring 34. Understand that it takes time 35. Accept who you are and own it 36. Learn about ways to stand up for yourself 37. Learn to say no 38. hang out with a kitten😍 39. discover a new band 40. Start your own band 41. Be more honest 42. Meditate 43. Be critical of everything you read online 44. Go shopping 45. Cook a meal for your family/friends 46. Join a club 47. Organise activities for friends/family 48. Climb a tree 49. List the things you love about yourself 50. List the things you are most grateful for